Never, never give in

In Winston Churchill’s famous speech to Harrow School in October 1941, when the British were bombarded by the Germans, he said these words,

“But for everyone, surely, what we have gone through in this period–I am addressing myself to the School–surely from this period of ten months, this is the lesson:
Never give in. Never give in. Never, never, never, never–in nothing, great or small, large or petty–never give in, except to convictions of honour and good sense. Never yield to force. Never yield to the apparently overwhelming might of the enemy.”
I thought about the junctures in life when I could have given in, and given up: enduring a breakup of an engagement in 2011, going on no income for one year after starting on my own biz in 2017, and folding up one of my biz in May this year.
At each of the lowest point, the feeling is similar. When I went through the breakup in 2011, I was close to depression. I went through the various stages of grief, first, the self denial, then the anger and frustration, and finally, the self-blame and loss of faith and hope in people as well as God. 
In 2017 and earlier this year, it was the sense of hopelessness, and giving up that plagued my mind. But even as I walked through these dark periods of my life, I was really thankful that there were angels in my life who never gave up on me. 
What can we learn from Winston Churchill and his people during the lowest point of their lives? One thing I learnt is that they chose to press on, and kept the faith that things will turn for the better, as long as they stay united together to face the adversity. It is not only Winston Churchill himself, but the countless nameless people who selflessly gave and helped when England endured waves and waves of bombing. Don’t feel that you are fighting the battle alone, but know that there are people who are willing to endure with you. Know that there is a God who knows the deepest struggles in your heart, and loves and cares for you. 
I didn’t give up, because I believed that as long as I keep fighting, there will always be a chance. They say that the night is always the darkest before dawn. And as someone who loves trekking and climbing mountains, you will always feel like giving in, and giving up in the final stretch before reaching the top of the mountain. 
The words of Churchill resonated deeply with me. I hope that it will also encourage you in your journey.
Never, never give in, or give up.

My experience with depression

A couple of days ago, I saw something mentioned in the news about the high likelihood of men suffering from depression, because they do not speak up or seek help as much as women…
This struck me deeply, and reminded me of a certain dark period of my life when I almost fell into depression…
That was quite a few years back in the year 2011, when I was supposed to get married at the end of 2011, but the relationship fell apart because of various reasons, some of which were directly because of me. At that point of time, I blamed everyone and everything, and retreated slowly into a shell which I created for myself.
But on the surface, I put on a facade, of being able to cope with the breakup and continuing life as per normal.
Deep inside, I went through a roller coaster of emotions. First, denial. Denial that the relationship was over and it was time to move on. Then, anger. Anger that my ex decided to give up on the relationship. Frustration that I couldn’t do anymore to salvage the relationship. Finally, bitterness that God allowed bad things to happen to good people. (Okay, I wasn’t perfect, but I considered myself to be good lah)
It wasn’t easy for me to walk out of that dark period of my life. But I was able to because I had people around me who never failed to reach out to me, while at the same time giving me space to go through the various stages of grief.
Why am I sharing this now? This is because I want to create awareness – awareness that depression is real, and they affect people around you. Especially during such tough times, when people are losing jobs, business closing down etc.
That piece of news struck a deep chord with me, and reminded me not to stop reaching out to people around me. If you need someone to talk to, I am absolutely willing to lend you my ears, or even a shoulder to cry on.
I just want you to know that it is okay to be not okay.