Congruency – what you do is what you say, and what you say is what you do.

I don’t usually comment on topics relating to religion or politics, but the recent Ivan-gate has brought to bear this word: congruency.
It is indeed not an easy task being a leader, especially standing in parliament and having to account to stakeholders (the people of Singapore). And while I don’t know the full extend of the matter, nor do I know Ivan personally, I do know this: there is never smoke without fire.
Now, apparently, there is a lack of congruence somewhere along the line. It could be the selection process, how he could have “smoked” his way through.
Or it could be simply be a reflection of how the political game is played. (Why I will never step into the political minefield).
As a coach, I have coachees who lack congruence in their values, and what they want to achieve. For example, an accountancy biz owner who wants to scale up her business, but yet doesn’t believe that she is able to muster the resources to do it. In coaching, it is a 50-50 effort. If the coachee has issues with her values and beliefs not aligning with her goals, it is my role to help her to align these values and find congruency.
In sales and business, being congruent is very important. There are people who always want to “look good”, hence they will always over-promise and over-sell a product or a service. This is the fastest way to break someone’s trust! Don’t ever do that! Always seek to under-promise and over-deliver. That is the golden rule in any business, and if you can do that, you will get a lot of referrals.
In this sad incident, there has been a distinct lack of congruence. This has resulted in a promising candidate being forced to step down even before his political career has  ended. He will now have to start from square one again, if he is really keen to serve the people in a capacity as a member of parliament.
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